Giri (義理) is a Japanese value roughly corresponding to
"duty", "obligation", or even "burden of
obligation" in English.
The burden of obligation an Instructor has to a student is
something I’ve been thinking about lately.
Let’s start with some personal history and work our way back
to the topic. When I first started
teaching cops, my classes were fairly complicated. Not only that but they were mostly text book
Aikido and Judo classes. Even then part
of me knew that there was no way I could get these guys proficient in a couple
of hours a year. But I thought they
would see how good I am/ how easy it was for me, want to improve, and train on
their own time (with me at the Dojo).
Looking back now I can see how arrogant that was.
A hard, but enlightening realization I had was, that if
these guys wanted to be skilled in empty hand combative measures they already
would be.
Sneaky little secret is that it isn’t all that hard. Find a good teacher, train regularly, work
hard.
(Hell, that is the corner stone of the book I’m writing)
Anyone can do it, so how come these guys haven’t?
They simply don’t want to.
They do not have the desire. No
pounding I give them on the mat, no amount of leading by example, and no amount
of encouragement is going to instill them with that desire.
It took me a long time to figure out why. It was pointed out to me that I am addicted
to training, and I can’t disagree. As
addictions go, it’s not a bad one to have.
But I have to understand I am an addict and look at the situation
through an addict’s eyes. I’m an addict
wondering why others aren’t addicted and why they don’t act like other addicts
That knowledge was hard won, but knowledge is power and
changed the way I teach.
I will never make them like me, I have to help them become
better thems.
(I don’t even know if thems is a word just go with me I’m on
a roll)
That is my obligation.
Now it is still a burr under my saddle because the people I teach lives
may depend on what I am teaching them.
One would think that with the stakes that high it is not too much to ask
them to do a little something on their own to save their own lives.
Even so, that doesn’t change the burden of my
obligation. If anything it makes it
heavier. If you are unwilling to do
anything to increase your chances of survival, I must do more to make you capable
of protecting yourself.
It would be very easy for me to teach skills that only work
for young, strong, fit, men. Easy for me
to mock and ridicule those officers that are incapable of doing those
techniques. Then send them back to the
streets with the knowledge that I’m awesome and they suck
That would be easy.
In fact because it is easy that is what the majority of cop training is
like. But how could I live with myself
if the day comes that the cop that never trains, never works out, finds himself
in a violent physical confrontation and they only thing they can do is think I suck
at this, I’m dead.
Boy I really showed him right. I bet he wishes he could go back in time and
hit the gym with me, go to the dojo with me.
I’m sure that will be a great comfort to his widow or his
orphans.
Two very close friends of mine, both outstanding Instructors
have been to the funerals of cops they trained.
That experience has stuck with them, changed them. All heroes have scars, not all scars can be
seen.
Side note
As long as I’m ranting and on a roll there is something I’ve
wanted to write for a while.
If you don’t have scars
If all your joints work the way they are supposed to
If you have never cleaned up stuff that is supposed to stay
indise a human body
If you have never been to the funeral of a friend or colleage
that was murdered
Then you haven’t lived “the life”. That is a good thing, don’t by any means be
ashamed of that. Many people who live
the life wish they didn’t.
Don’t be ashamed of it, but don’t pretend to be something
you are not.
I don’t care how many
tattoos you have
I don’t care how much training you have or the cornucopia of
martial arts you have experience in
I don’t care how many fights you won in 4th grade
I don’t care how much “door” experience you have at upper
middle class suburban bars
Don’t act like some urban commando bad ass. Don’t teach edged weapons or fire arms
defenses because you’ve never done it.
Don’t advertise yourself as some sort of paramilitary guru to make
cash. Because the people you are
training trust you. Can you live with
yourself if your bullshit gets them killed, or a life in prison?
I can’t, and that brings us back to the obligation of a
teacher
Even if it is more work.
Even if it is exponentially more work than they are willing to do themselves. You have the obligation to make them competent.
You have to be good enough to see their inherent shortcomings
and find things that work for them.
You can’t put them back on the street until their competence
raises to the point where they are confident in their skills.
That is a tough burden to bear, if you can’t do it don’t
teach operators.
I was tempted to end the blog there, but I’m a positive
guy. I’m not going to end on a negative.
So, how does one go about finding things that work for them?
A couple of things that have worked for me.
Make sure they bhave a through understanding of use of force
policy especially Subject / Officer factors
Factors (except for gender) go both ways.
Size
Strength
Age
Special Knowledge (like you know this guys likes to fight
cops, or he is a golden gloves champ)
Gender
Injury
Exhaustion
With this information they will understand that they will
need a much higher level of force to prevail and that they are justified in using
that higher level of force.
Make sure they are free of a sport / fair play mindset. They might say I could never take this
guy. And in a boxing match, wrestling
match, or any fair fight they would be right
"I'll kill a man in a fair fight, or if I think he is gonna start one"
- Jayne "Serenity"
So you need to make sure that they never “fight fair”.
If you can get them to see the subject as a collection of
anatomical weakness to be exploited should the need arise, you have given them
more practical skills then memorizing any physical technique.
It is a tough burden to bear, but somebody has to do it.
A student gives the teacher a couple of hours a week. A teacher gives the his student his entire
life
Train hard, Train smart, Be safe (try to make it a little
easier for those that teach you)
I LIKE it! Never teach anything that could get your student killed.
ReplyDeleteSay, Marc, is that the reason you won't let us spar with the green fairy?
ReplyDeleteKasey, a question: is a cop who won't train more than those 2h/year likely to actually grok what you tell him or will he put about as much effort in understanding it?
Take care.
Awesome blog!
ReplyDeleteAs far as senseis go... oyou always go above and beyond the call of duty.
Thanks!!!
shugyosha,
ReplyDeleteI push them only as far as they can go. I have learned to recognize the signs of when the tea cup is full if you smell what I'm cooking.
I have found that if you make it fun you can push guys pretty hard but only for about an hour at a time. If they can see the light at the end of the tunnel, know a break is coming, they will work harder. If they don't know how long they have to go they will just quit when the start to get tired.
Good question, in fact that will be a blog of mine in the non too distant future
p.s. what the hell does grok mean?
Kasey, thanks.
ReplyDeleteGrok, from "Stranger in a strange land" [Heinlein]: to comprehend fully, to the extent that makes it part of yourself. To "own".
Sorry. I'd been told it had entered US English mainstream.
Take care